Positive or Negative? How do you measure?
I went to the post office to mail off a special package for one of my readers who lives in Quebec today. She was the nicest lady. Just talking to her on the phone put me in a better than usual mood.
When I entered the post office the woman behind the counter asked, “How are you today?”
“Doing Great,” I replied. “And how are you?”
“Not to bad” she answered flashing a brief half-hearted smile.
Years ago, before I began this journey of self development if you had asked me how I was doing I too would have said something similar.
“not too bad” or “could be worse” were my standard replies to this innocent question.
When someone you barely know asks you how you are doing, they don’t really want to know any details, it is just a form of small talk.
But how you respond reveals a lot about yourself. It reveals how you measure your own life.
If you see life positively, you will measure it in the positive. “doing good” for a good day, and for a bad day you would say something along the lines of “not so good”.
If you view life negatively you will measure it in the negative, with statements like “not to bad” being your measurement of your good days and for a bad day something similar to “terrible” .
Is the glass half empty or half full?
How do you measure your life? Is it on a scale of good to better or bad to worse?
Little things like this give us insight into our subconscious mind and how we actually view the world.
The Law of Attraction tells us that our thoughts and the feeling that come from those thoughts are shaping our life and the world around us.
So if you are measuring your life in negative terms, may I suggest that you make a conscious effort to shift that way of thinking and begin measuring life in positive terms.
You might just be surprised by how much better your days go.
It’s so true. What we focus on expands. If we focus on feeling good, then we will find more reasons to feel good.
Yes, I agree. Few years ago I got another interesting frase that we use nowadays – for example: “Could you please make a coffee?” The reply usually goes: “No problem.”
Who even talked about problems? How did the word “Problem” get into our everyday vocabulary?
Thanks for sharing that Daniela. That is so true…
This is one of my favourite pass times – seeing people’s reactions when replying to the automated monotone ‘how are you today’ with an enthusiastic ‘absolutely fabulous’. Gives them a little shock – and I mostly manage to get a smile from them by the time the transaction is completed. BTW I love your newsletter and positive attitude, must be what attracted me in the first place. A most excellent day to all.
Just a little grammatical error I wanted to point out first.. The correct phrase should actually read, ‘Not TOO bad’.
My experience is that my perspective changes all the time, as I find I will use a combination of all the above depending on my mood. But yes in general maybe people do view life either from a MORE positive or MORE negative perspective. Though this definitely isn’t set in stone, it can and will change if you make a conscious effort to do so – as they say, ‘Change your perspective, change your life!’
Thank you for the good stuff. On February 2, 2009 at 8.51 am, Anita “corrected” a grammar point wrongly!!! She should have used :”Not TOO badly” and look up her English grammar book.
Criticism is not often desired, but he or she who throws a ball should expect it back (Translated from a Dutch proverb).
Have a great time everybody. Clifford.
Is this about what she said, or is it becoming a grammar/proofreading session? It feels to me ever so like someone is attempting, on whatever a clandestine level, to sidetrack into minutia. What the woman said is what she said– and having said it, she said it. She made her point..albeit in the reverse negative, and perhaps she may have erroneously mentally misspelled it, to v. too, and inserted an adjective where she would have been better advised to insert an adverb, but what she said, at the risk of belaboring repetitive redundancy, she said! and the point is the reverse negative, not the spelling or the grammar…. so get over it, Cupcake!
Well, I may not say everything Grammatically correct here either (Anita, Clifford and/or Barbara) but, “I’m going to say it anyways.”
Thank you, JD for always giving everyone that takes the time to read another reason to be positive. A lot of people may not have the Education to say everything Grammatically right but, at least you can comprehend what they are saying. So, again thanks for what you give to us all, “A new way of looking at Life.”
May you all be blessed with Health, Wealth and Prosperity!
Angel
This is so old, however. Not too “bad “is correct. Bad here is a predicate adjective describing a state of being. Clifford, you use badly, it is an adverb and would mean something like you are able to grasp things with your hands in an OK fashion.
It is okay to have a rough day if your energy levels are down from coping with unexpected issues in your employment or your family circle.
The words that come out of your mouth when someone greets you, is probably a very good indication of how your day is going – and the trick is to notice what you have said, then ask yourself whether you want to stay stuck in this mood, or deliberately start thinking of nicer things to lift your vibrations.
If several of your friends have died recently, or your son has crashed his car one too many times, you have reason to feel down, and it is okay to acknowledge how you are feeling.
Admitting that your day is not going too well, sets a benchmark, and gets you thinking how you would rather be feeling – and if you can identify some better moments in your life, you mood will lift as you let the bad stuff (as Jesus said), “get in behind you so you can’t see it and keep feeding it your focus and energy.
Dolly Parton said that we need the bad moments so we can notice the rainbows after the rain has stopped.
Adam and Eve lived in the Garden of Eden for many years and had no babies, and it was only when they were expelled and given FREE CHOICE (Freewill) did they begin to understand that they never appreciated all the beauty in the Garden of Eden (whilst they were living there).
Bad moments help us to appreciate the good stuff, and if we count our blessings, and truly appreciate the gifts that God has already given us – guess what?……….God says, “I will give her more of what she appreciates” and then I will watch her eyes light up with joy.
No one gets ahead in life until they acknowledge all the people who helped them get a start in life, from Doctors, Teachers, friends, family, strangers.
Count your blessings and thank everyone who helps you (with true love and appreciation), and God rushes to give you more good things.
Dream BIG and wrap your dream in unconditional love. Your dream should be to attract abundance which you want to share with family and friends.
There is no point in being the richest person in the world and holding a party on your own without guests to help you enjoy the moment.
God does not make junk, so when you appreciate what he has made, he feels a warm glow in his heart – and works his magic to give you your heart’s desire.
When you love things, you send lovely vibrations out into the ETHER of the universe, and the magic mirrow sends you more than what you sent out.
If you hate the world, a ton of bricks falls on your head.
If you love the world, all your eyes will see is a “Garden of Eden full of awesome treasures”.
If you have doubts that God will help you, then the Mountain will not move aside when you tell it to shift three paces to the right.
From the bottom of my heart, I wish everyone an awesome 2011.
I am glad that John is thinking younger than 39 for the 17th, and not 93 and ready to imagine he is over the hill.
80% of the world earn less than $2 per day, and if you have food warmth and shelter and a good friend, you can wear a smile on your face and thank God for his gifts that keep you alive.
It is an illusion that we need consumer goods to make us happy. America is awash with opportunities that were not available in 1950, and stramgely, people have more stress than ever.
If we are truly grateful for what we have already, and WHAT WE ARE ABOUT TO RECEIVE, we will attract awesome things into our lives to share with our friends.
The magic that runs the universe has made all humans in to Genies in the Lamp. The LOA works 24/7, and if we are not grateful for what we wish to receive, guess what, WE DEFINITELY CAN’T HAVE IT.
We can’t receive abundance until we put out the WELCOME TO MY HOME MAT. If you refuse to wear a smile of welcome, strangers won’t knock on your door to become your friends.
I operate a Sublimal flasher on my computer than flashes a photograph every three seconds automatically. The photo is of a baby deer and a rabbit touches noses in the wild, and I have added a title, “everwhere I look I see beautiful things”.
Now everyone knows that I am hopeless at drawing and painting, in fact an Art teacher, a couple of years ago told me, that my paintings were that of a child.
But this year, since I inserted my photo into the Flasher, I have created an awesome garden which people stop to look at. My eyes can only see beautiful things now, I have created my Garden of Eden.
You are the best.
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